If it’s not FBO, did it really happen?

If a girl goes to Starbucks and does’t post an Instagram picture of her drink, did she really go? If two people start dating but never change their relationship status on Facebook, are they really a couple? If you post a shameless selfie but your best friend doesn’t ‘like’ it within the first 10 minutes, are they a true friend? Adding another dimension to human relationships such as social media, makes every relationship with even the tiniest presence online infinitely more complicated.

Posting relationships to Facebook is something our parents didn’t have to think or stress about. The general fact that this article even has to exist is sad:


Having “friends” online, yet also having my real friends online does create a complexity to the existing relationship. You have to be careful what you post. What if I forget to invite Suzie Q to the party but she sees pictures of everyone else there? What if Suzie Q and I are chatting over a timeline post and she interprets something in the wrong way? Communication over a screen is not legitimate. It can be so hard to understand tone of voice, facial expression, sarcasm, excitement, etc when all you see is text on a screen. We lose the ability to have real human interactions, something fundamental to human nature. People are becoming increasingly more uncomfortable when they have to speak in person or talk over the phone because it is so much easier to type it out. A lot of people are even more open or willing to share things of a personal nature when they don’t actually have to say it out loud.

Since the social media craze, I am inclined to look at the word ‘friend’ in a new light. I have 1,158 friends on Facebook, yet I probably only regularly communicate with 50 of them. I see the value in a real human relationship, interacting in person, talking face to face, and experiencing memories together. I think a lot of people in my generation are only taking the word ‘friend’ at its surface value. They get too caught up in trying to capture a picture of the moment to show all of their “friends” so that they can get a lot of “likes” but what they don’t realize is the importance of actually living out those experiences with the people around you.

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So, back to my initial questions. If something happens that isn’t posted, tweeted about, or put on someone’s Snapchat story, did it really happen? Well.. yes, but none of your “friends” will know about it. However, you’re true friends will and thats all that really matters, right? Why are we getting so wrapped up trying to make our lives look so incredible to strangers, weird kids from high school, distant family, and other randoms? That’s a good question, and something that I am guilty of as well. We all are.

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